A Fresh Take on the Going Gray Decision

from a gifted new friend

Welcome to a special edition of HNTFUYF—special, because it’s our first guest post.

And what a post! What a guest! I’ve been reluctant to hand over HNTFUYF to anyone else because I love hanging with you every week. But not long ago in Roxane Gay’s Substack, The Audacity, there appeared a captivating guest-host who seemed exactly right for HNTFUYF, too.

She’s honest, wise, compassionate, and fun. Her name is Aubrey Hirsch. She’s a writer and illustrator—you can read more of her terrific work here. And you should! But for now, please savor the lagniappe below.

Oops! Don’t forget to hit the ❤️ to give a warm welcome to guests the world over.

A Moment of Personal Horn-Blowing

HNTFUYF was recently included in a roundup of the “23 Best Health and Wellness Newsletters of 2023” by the (what else?) health and wellness website Ness. Thanks, Ness, and thanks to all you HNTFUYF-ers for inspiring me with your thoughtful questions and comments. xo

Serious about selling you kinder self-regard.

HNTFUYF, a Payola-Free Zone

Readers, a few of you have asked if I get a cut from sales when I mention a product. I do not. I only mention products I’d like to buy myself, and therefore think you might like, too. I share this so you know my recommendations are offered without obligation.

Val Asks You

Don’t be shy! What’s your most vexing or intractable appearance issue? Send your beauty-related questions to valeriemonroe@substack.com. If I don’t have a good answer, I’ll find someone who does.