Do You Have RBF?

and if you do, do you know why?

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Until I watched a recent notable debate, I thought I had the worst case of resting bitch face (or RBF). My RBF is particularly disconcerting, because inside I’m basically Frog (of the Frog and Toad romance), with a happiness set point bobbing somewhere just below bliss. So when I catch a glimpse of myself seemingly expressing displeasure, it feels like my face is betraying me. Did I do something wrong? Am I mad at myself? Why do I look like that?

Here's why I look like that—and why you might have noticed you do, too.

As we get older, it’s not uncommon to say and mean with all our heart, I’m happy and grateful—but to look instead like we’re thinking, F*ck you and the horse you rode in on. Though sometimes annoyed expressions on the more mature of us are simply because something hurts—a complaining back, a pinched something-or-other—when we’re ache-free and still look less than joyful, it’s probably due to changes in our facial structure.

Did some curious reader just ask what kinds of changes?

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